Do You Have a Heart Wall?

What is a Heart Wall?

A heart wall is a trapped emotion that has lodged in the heart, forming a kind of wall in the heart.

Heart walls initially are typically trapped as a protection mechanism. However, after serving in that way, they can become impediments to feeling, connecting with others, creatively self-expressing, and loving one’s life to the fullest.

Releasing heart wall and other trapped emotions can help the people feel better, live more vibrantly, and have healthier connections with others.

How and Why Are Heart Walls Formed?

Heart walls form to help protect against emotional pain and can dull the sensation of whatever emotion may be too painful at the time. i.e. heartache, insecurity, etc.

However, once the moment of seemingly unendurable pain or situation that prompted a heart wall response has passed, the remaining heart wall can result in “emotional callousness and separation.”

Heart walls can be like ear plugs or tornado shelters, things that help us in more extreme situations but that we don’t want to keep engaging with or they can impede life or be problematic.

Heart walls can contribute to many discomforts or impede in the flow of energy and connection in and through the heart.

Do You Have a Heart-Wall?

Heart walls can contribute to challenges in human connection, intimacy, and empathy, living from our hearts and a place of love and gratitude, among others.

A heart wall can also play a part in physical issues and discomforts such as: neck, shoulder, or chest discomfort, fatigue, respiratory issues, affected nearby body parts, lower immune system function, and chronic issues of all different kinds.

Emotionally, heart walls can contribute to the experience of more negative emotions as the heart is holding on to a particular emotional experience that can be filtering the heart’s experience and bathing in that emotion. This can result in more frequent experiences of more negative emotions.

It’s worth saying that all emotions are valuable and none are good or bad. It’s simply that for emotional energy to flow freely, and for the body to experience its natural state of health, removing emotional vibrations that have served their purpose is beneficial.

Releasing emotional baggage can also help prevent disease, illness, and injury from forming before those imprints compound into the physical body.

Additional issues that heart walls can contribute to are disconnection from others and passion, feeling unmotivated, experiencing a lack of joy or feeling stuck in a comfort zone in an uncomfortable way and feeling unable to move out of it, creative blocks (including not being able to get things out of you and create what you know you are capable of, feeling a lack of inspiration, creative frustration, or shut down creatively), and self-sabotage.

Releasing heart walls can have subtle or obvious ripples throughout life and health.

Releasing a Heart Wall

A simple and easy way to clear out a heart wall is through The Emotion Code healing modality.

Removing a heart wall could enable you to feel lighter, experience more of your natural vitality, create deeper connection, have more empathy, be more collaborative, find greater success and creativity, experience more of life, feel calmer, more confident, and feel better physically.

The Power of the Heart

Heart walls can be removed and our hearts and bodies are amazingly resilient and powerful.

According to Discover Healing, the heart radiates the largest electromagnetic field of any organ at 60 times stronger than the output of the cranial brain.

The heart contains 40,000 specialized cells called “sensory neurites” that form a neural network that can think, feel and remember on their own as both short and long-term memory neurons. In essence, this means the heart is basically a little brain!

Because of this phenomenon of the heart’s intelligent nature, traumas that weren’t processed fully need to be addressed in both the heart and the brain. Releasing trapped emotions including heart walls can help support that process.  

Being able to access and express the tremendous power and intelligence of the heart is potent. It can be life-changing to release a heart wall if that’s preventing the full expression of the heart’s life force. Accessing the natural power of the heart is empowering and liberating.

 Taking Action to Clear a Heart Wall

With the Emotion Code healing modality, I can help you release heart wall emotions that may have been holding you back.

And if you would like to see if we are a good fit working together, or would like to see what modality would work best for you in your present circumstances, please contact me or sign up for a complimentary 20 minute Heart-to-Heart call.

You can reach me at 808-690-5081, shelleyfritzhealing@gmail.com, or via my Services page (please feel free to contact me as I have more availability than is listed online).

Many Thanks for Reading!

Shalom shalom,

Shells

Throughout this article material is referenced from my training with Discover Healing, whom with I am a Certified Emotion Code Practitioner (CECP) and a Certified Body Code Practitioner (CBCP).

3 Ways to Cultivate Self-Compassion

“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf” – Jon Kabat-Zinn.

Self-compassion is the fertilizer of self-awareness.

How do you cultivate self-compassion?

Creating healthy boundaries with people, places, and situations has allowed me to see clearly where I need to set healthy boundaries with myself. Sometimes we just  need space to unpack, to open up, expand, feel and heal. It’s important to be able to discern what you’re feelings are relative to those around you, and the collective consciousness.

Here are a few ways to help you dive in to your feelings and discover more self-compassion:

1.    Instead of judging feelings, getting curious and asking what the emotion is pointing to.

     i.e. this anger – why is it there? What is it telling me? Shining a light in always brings relief. If I slow down and listen I find there is always far more under the surface. We are incredibly intelligent beings, and our feelings are rich with insight.

  By giving yourself the grace to follow your feelings to where they lead you, you may discover some deeper truths about yourself and your behavior that will expand your experience of self-compassion.

2.    Kristin Neff

  “Self-compassion is an amazing source of strength and emotional resilience….We know that people who are more self-compassionate have much more resilience to get through difficult times. In research she found it doesn’t matter so much what happens to you as it does how you relate to yourself when times are difficult. Are you an inner ally or an inner enemy?

Most people are inner enemies, that voice in their head constantly saying ‘You’re not good enough, you screwed up, I hate you’ all of these voices in our head. We are constantly harming ourselves. What happens when you have a voice that supports you? Y’know hey it’s ok I’m here for you, I love you anyway, I’ll support you, what do you need right now? It’s an incredible source of strength and resilience and that’s what the research shows”. Self-compassion also promotes compassion beyond oneself.

3.    Mama & Marie Forleo – Swamping

If you’ve got a feeling that just need to move or has been nagging at you. Feel free to give swamping a go, it’s a simple way to move it out. No matter what the feeling is, it’s got to come up to come out.  Swamping involves choosing a song and a feeling and let yourself feel into it, dance it out, move it, shake it, swamp it until the song is over. Permission to be human includes the permission to feel your feelings. Allow yourself to swamp it out, t can be fun and help move even heavy, lethargic and weighty emotions,.

“One of the most difficult things is not to change society- but to change yourself.” – Nelson Mandela

I hope this helps you feel more at ease during this soul-washing period. Most importantly, keep the energy flowing in your life, however you do that best. Do what soothes your soul. If you feel stuck, feel free to reach out and I can help you move along in your healing journey.

Note: This article is third in Cultivating Emotional Health Series

Quote Source: “The Power of Self-Compassion. With Dr. Kristin Neff. Uplift TV

Is Emotional Baggage Weighing You Down?

Part 2 in Emotional Health Series

Continuing from Part 1…

So, what if I haven’t had healthy emotional boundaries?

Preparing to Deep Dive

Let’s back up a moment and set a healthy container for our emotional self-care exploration. Our sensitivities, weaknesses, places where we have been most wounded and afraid are coming up to be cleansed and healed.

It can feel all over the place. If things feels negative, heavy, dense there’s something based on falsehood, and is ripe for releasing! The truth feels light, joyful, and buoyant.

If emotions get backed up, it can feel overwhelming and frightening, which is why keeping things moving (whether externally or internally) is so important right now.

None of us want to carry around emotional baggage, and we are all doing the best we can. Yet, sometimes things get sticky and hang on, and shame and guilt can get piled on and…well can feel like this truck…not fun!

We all feel things in our own ways, and no one will ever understand the totality of our experience as beings. We can shape our culture by having compassion for our shared human experience in our uniqueness. Unity in diversity!

If we get too emotionally backlogged, however, the feeling that no one else could understand (or not wanting to bother anyone and wanting to ‘do it all on my own’) just makes things worse.

Being hard on yourself keeps patterns stuck in gear. Things can start heading in a negative spiral of emotional overwhelm instead of a positive upward spiral of emotional growth and possibility.

Getting angry and frustrated just piles on, compounding the situation, so what can we do? Let’s start by breathing in together, real deep…all the way down…hold it. Intend to gather all that baggage, and let it go…let it ALL go…ahhhh. One mindful breath can change your whole day!

Good News:

Positive Spirals can be generated by such a simple action as one breath! Every step you take in a positive and healthy direction matters more than you know.

“Almost everything you do will seem insignificant, but it is important that you do it.” – M.K. Gandhi

Your baggage is the raw material of your transformation. Allow your resistance to become fertilizer for your process. Resistance is a natural part of the healing and creative process, if you run into it, you can be sure there’s buried treasure behind it.

 It’s a beautiful humbling moment where we can see where we’ve been wrong, wounded, growing, and it’s all divinely perfect so please let yourself off the hook! We as humanity are rising to the occasion, and we are being called to do our part and trust that everyone else has an equal sovereignty and innate power to do the same for themselves.

Seize this transformative moment by allowing it ALL air out with some love and sunshine in so it can move out! Hydrate, ground, breathe, eat fresh clean foods, dance, do whatever you need to keep the energy moving.

Cue: The Fifth Dimension Let the Sunshine

Let’s face it, we are all way too hard on ourselves, and that ends up projecting out onto others if left untended. There’s no shame in growing and we all learn through experience, which is something we people all have in common.

It’s safe to go in and listen. Allow yourself to relax, to be spiritually supported, to experience catharsis.

The energetic waves are titanic right now, so if you need to, please give yourself permission to pause and release, center, ground, and be gentle with yourself. It’s a time of actively letting go and it can feel intense. We are going through a profound rebirth, unprecedented in human experience.

Diving In

If, in your self-reflection, you realize you’ve emotionally over extended yourself in the past, over given, over shared…most importantly please be kind & loving with yourself. Awareness is the first step to self-mastery.

This can be challenging if you feel people have come to expect a certain level of emotional giving from you and those are still active relationships in your life.

If this is the case, you may need to take the necessary time to allow your feelings and to become centered in yourself, allowing repressed emotions to surface and pass.

People naturally adjust to us when we make adjustments. We are all constantly changing and adapting, a beautiful aspect of our capacity to evolve.

In some situations it may be helpful to communicate to others that you’re changing and becoming healthier, and while you love that person there may be some adjustments, like in the amount of time you’re available, etc. Other times, letting it happen naturally and gracefully is sufficient.

Your intuition and feelings will let you know where boundaries need to be set. If something is nagging at you or negativity is creeping in, that’s a clear indication boundaries could use some tinkering. Often this means changing how we are expending our energy mentally, emotionally and physically.

It takes courage to grow. Let’s together create a supportive culture by giving ourselves grace as we learn in our own respective ways as best we can.

Your Highest Good is In Everyone’s Highest Good – Win – Win - Win

I find it helpful to keep in mind that what is the in the highest and best good for you is also in the highest and best good for everyone else.

So, if at a human level people get their feathers ruffled because you are being proactive about creating a healthy life, it’s simply not your business or responsibility to care take others emotional well-being. Ultimately, that’s their job.  

Showing kindness, gentleness, and respect goes a long way. I can certainly appreciate (especially in retrospect!) the grace people have given me at my biggest turning points of emotional growth.

I feel this grace is culminating at this convergence of transformation now. We can each choose to be our best selves and show up that way as best we can, knowing that we are all going through our own growth process. Life is in full support of our evolution and opening our hearts. .

We can love and support one another without taking on things and attempting to do things for others, which just doesn’t work, and leads to tangled codependent messes. In healing, we are moving from energy draining to energy sustaining.

We are adaptable & people will adjust to your healthier behavior, or maybe if it’s a relationship that’s served it’s purposes then it’s time to peacefully move forward. Life tends to sort things out when we do what we are each respectively guided to and engage with life. No need to stress about the rest!

For support in the process of unraveling emotions, I highly recommend Melody Beatty’s wonderful “The Language of Letting Go”, a beautiful book with daily reflections on having a healthy life free from unhealthy codependency.

Self-Compassion = Emotional Mastery

Below is the process by which we become masterful learners. This process applies to emotional intelligence as much as anything:

Unconscious Competence -> Conscious Incompetence -> Conscious Competence -> Unconscious Competence

It’s always smart to keep an open heart! It is also a prerequisite/integral to feeling compassion and empathy. If you are feeling the need to nurture your own emotional well-being garden, please give yourself permission to feel compassion and take your foot of the empathy gas if need be.

Simply, if you need space to feel your own feelings, then by all loving means, life is supporting you. Your emotional well-being is essential. There’s no shame in that!

Allow yourself to be loving in whatever ways are most appropriate for the well-being of your soul in the context of your current life experience. And have compassion on yourself for doing the best you could in any given situation. In sharing that grace with everyone, you receive it many times over.

By giving yourself permission to be emotionally healthy empowers others to do the same for themselves, which is a gift. What truly world-changing things can happen when we are emotionally healthy!

Whatever you are feeling emotionally, what is one thing you can do to support your emotional processing? It’s empowering to savor simple things like calming your nervous system with an epsom salt bath, some lavender tea or essential oil, writing yourself a kind note. Wishing you peace & serenity!

Vegan Sexuality & Thriving in High Stress Times with Shelley Fritz

Ep. 64 - Vegan sexuality and thriving in high stress times with Shelley Fritz Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching

• Sexuality

You might notice that today's episode is a little longer than normal, and that's for good reason. I did the interview with Shelley Fritz originally in February, and life's changed a little bit. So what I have at the end of today's episode is a followup interview. I've never done this before, but I thought it was worth it because Shelly had discussed some things that she had coming up with some workshops, and obviously life's changed. Shelly is a holistic healer. She's a coach. She focuses on helping people find clarity. She's also cannabis coach. She's writing a book. We talked about, of course, two of my favorite topics, which is sex and cannabis . We discussed how it can help post-menopausal women, uh, people who have painful intercourse, painful periods. Cannabis can absolutely add to your sexual experiences and we talked about some of the ways to do so. And we got into talking about the difference between using cannabis as a drug to get high versus a medicine. Shelly is also a vegan, so we discussed ways that a plant based lifestyle can enhance your sex life. This conversation was phenomenal. So I think that you're going to want to listen to the entire thing, break it up into a couple sessions if you need to. 

Let me know what you think. I'd love to hear back from you, Kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com is my email or send me a direct message on any of my social media channels. Please rate, like, and subscribe this podcast and share it with anyone that you think might benefit from hearing it. I always love and appreciate hearing from my listeners, especially right now when we're all practicing social distancing... Call it physical distancing. We can still keep socializing. We just got to find different ways to do it. So if you want to reach out, please do so. 

For anyone that is interested in coaching sessions with me, I am now offering 30 minute and 60 minute virtual sessions. I can coach you from anywhere thanks to technology. I work with couples and singles. Again, shoot me an email if you would like some more info.

Mentioned in the episode:

Shelley Fritz can be reached at ShelleyFritzHealing.com or shelleyfritzhealing@gmail.com

Russel Brand and Brené Brown interview on YouTube

Mic the Vegan and Female Erectile Dysfunction

The Game Changers – Film about plant based eating and athletes

Weed The People – Available on Netflix

T. Colin Campbell Center for Nutrition Studies
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